What everyone ought to know about their thoughts.
Your inner world forms your outer world. That means the way you think impacts your experiences and overall satisfaction with life. It’s time to clear out the cobwebs for optimal mental health and happiness.
Your brain is a complex high performance engine with unlimited potential and how it runs depends on how well you understand and look after it.
It's been said that your brain produces around 50,000 thoughts per day. (More or less depending on where you source your ‘facts’.)
Think of it as a powerhouse dynamo, constantly slicing and dicing insane amounts of data rushing toward it vying for your attention, helping you make sense of your world and how you will think, feel and respond by using it’s own inbuilt and very clever filtering system.
Whilst researchers and scientists still have a long way to go in quantifying the number of thoughts passing through that space between our ears each day, and understanding the brain’s full capabilities, they have made great strides in understanding how our thoughts shape our mindsets, and ultimately our reality.
Here's what everyone ought to know about their thoughts ... if they want to improve the quality of their lives and relationships:
Your thoughts build your belief system.
Your beliefs are a feeling of certainty about what a thing means, formed by the way you interpret what happens around you. Your beliefs are a powerful driving force, which tend to be either empowering or disempowering. Most people are carrying around several disempowering beliefs that bring them down every day and they don’t even know it.
I never get ahead. I’m not lucky. You can’t trust anyone these days. That’s just the way it’s always been. It’s useless. Repeat that on a daily basis and you’re not exactly creating a conducive environment to thrive in, are you?
Your beliefs influence your language.
What you say and how you say it says a lot about your attitudes, view of the world, the way you see others, and most importantly the way you think about yourself. Your language, be it positive or negative, impacts every aspect of your life — health, wealth, family, career, relationships, growth and wellbeing.
I stuffed up. I can never get it right. It’s hard to get ahead. I don’t make friends easily. That will never work. Imagine having that kind of language on a continuous loop - a lot of us do without realising the full extent of the consequences.
Your language creates your reality.
Your words carry enormous power. Aim to be conscious and deliberate and take responsibility for what you say and how you say it — to yourself and to others. Your quality of life and success depends on it.
I am depressed. I am always alone. I lack confidence. I have nothing valuable to contribute. I can't do this. I will never succeed. It won't work. They don't like me. I am unloveable. Keep saying it and eventually you will be right and then you'll start to believe that's the way it's always been. And so the entire process starts again. Mind-boggling.
The good news is you have complete control over your thoughts, beliefs, language and reality. Negative thoughts and unproductive behaviours are learned and as such can be modified and unlearnt.
Anyone can learn to be more self-supporting and assertive in their way of thinking, by shifting their perspective, reframing a situation and putting a positive spin on the message they are trying to convey. Awareness is key. And so is repeated practice.
If you feel as though you've dug yourself into a hopeless hole, try working with a professional to help you get untangled, take a self development workshop, read a book, whatever your thing, practice taking small committed steps every day and watch your life blossom in 1000 unexpected ways.
Before you go, how are your thoughts serving you and what would you like to improve for optimal mental wellbeing? Leave a comment below. I would love to hear from you.