Monday mantra: Fuck it!

fuck it mantra

It's short. It's simple. And it can be incredibly self-empowering. 

I believe that the limitations we put on ourselves, be it physically or otherwise, are far more damaging and discouraging then those put on us by strangers. Of course it helps when someone else believes in us. 

Though the thing about belief is, you need to have plenty of it yourself before others will consider taking a chance on you, and even then it can still be in short supply. And so the bigger and more important question becomes, who will stand up and fight for my dreams and aspirations, if I don't?

The short answer - nobody. 

Today's mantra is about reclaiming your personal power and stepping up your resolve by daring yourself to go beyond where you've gone before. By challenging your comfort zones. By declaring your battle cry to the world and pushing harder than you've ever done before. Until you know what it's like to empty the tank. And keep going again tomorrow.

Try these on for size, or better yet, come up with your own battle cry, otherwise known as the Fuck It declaration.

Fuck it! I will keep going until someone says yes.

People often forget that success is a game of numbers, will and conviction. It takes tenacity to keep going when you’re told NO over and over again. Because no one is immune to rejection. Take a cue from these famous folks to keep on keeping on:

J.K. Rowling’s own backstory is as famous as the young wizard who captured the world’s imagination. She was a divorced, single mother on welfare, struggling to support herself when she wrote the first Harry Potter book. Her manuscript was rejected 12 times before someone said yes. Even then, her new publisher Bloomsbury, suggested she get a day job because there was no money in children’s books

Author of The Help, Kathryn Stockett, said “It was rejected 60 times. But letter number 61 was the one that accepted me.” The book went on to sell over 5 million copies and spent more than 100 weeks on The New York Times Best Seller list. And inspired the Oscar winning film adaptation in 2012.

Remember the hysteria and fandom that surrounded the Twilight saga, dividing audiences into Team Edward or Team Jacob camps? Author Stephenie Meyer was rejected 14 times before going on to sell 17 million copies and enjoy 91 weeks on the New York Times Best Seller list.

Then there is the King of Rock and Roll himself, Elvis Presley. He was told he'd be better off going back to driving trucks in Memphis, after a performance at Nashville’s Grand Ole Opry. It's safe to assume he didn't take that advice on board, as he went on to become one of the most influential and celebrated musicians of the 20th century. 

Colonel Harland David Sanders proves you've never too old to follow your dreams, having started his own dream at the tender age of 65, driving around the country, knocking on doors selling his fried chicken recipe. He was rejected 1008 times before he got one yes. Today KFC is the world's second largest restaurant chain with 18,875 outlets in 118 countries and territories.

And finally, there’s basketball legend Michael Jordan, famously cut from his high school basketball team, who said “I have missed over 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I have missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” 

When we're working hard, occasionally drowning in our own blood, sweat and tears it's easy to forget that magic is waiting on the other side of no. I will keep going. I will keep pushing. I will keep asking (for that deal, that sale, that sponsorship, that contract, that promotion, that job, that opportunity) until someone says yes. Will you?

Here are four more empowering declarations to help you step up and take charge:

Fuck it! I will get up, dress up and show up, no matter how I feel. I will never give up.

Fuck it! I know me playing small doesn’t serve the world. I will play a bigger game.  

Fuck it! I will focus on doing the right thing, not the popular thing.

Fuck it! The only person I need to be is myself. I like who I am becoming.

What will you say Fuck It to this week?

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