11 ways to attract more harmony into your life
If you want to attract more harmony and inner peace into your life, start with you.
No person, no place, and no thing has any power over us, for 'we' are the only thinkers in our mind. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives. ~ Louise Hay
There are those days where I feel all grown up, capable and everything seems under control. I feel confident, content only to have it blow up in my face a few days or weeks (or if I'm feeling lucky months) later. Then there are those days I turn on the news and see the world thrust into chaos and despair. Again. Oh how quickly uncertainty and those old pangs of anxiety return.
Life is unpredictable that way. It is full of of highs and lows, ups and downs, ins and outs. Yet it continues.
Over the years I've learned to recognise my ego's niggling voice as it tries to keep me safe. Small, stuck, insignificant and at worst ... paralysed by catastrophic thinking. Here are a few things I do to silence that voice and attract more harmony and inner peace into my daily life.
1. Accept yourself as you are today
One of the hardest things in life is to accept yourself for who you are today. Particularly when your aspirational self promises you the full love story in the future. The happier relationship, better body, meaningful work, greater success, more friends, money, etc. Practising self-kindness and compassion will help to silence your inner critic. Allowing you to operate from a place of self-acceptance and appreciation, knowing that tomorrow's betterment starts with today's choices.
2. Be honest with yourself and what you want
Ask yourself: What kind of world do I want to inhabit? What kind of experiences do I want to create? What do I want to do? What do I want to feel? What do I want to know? What are my values? How do I want others to feel when they interact with me? How will I contribute? Then ask: Why? And keep asking why until you reach your deepest truth.
3. If it feels wrong, don't do it
Define your personal standards so you will always know what you will and won't stand for. Always try to be conscious with your words and actions. They're immensely power in shaping the quality of your interactions. Will you be the person who adds or subtracts from an experience?
4. Don't be a people pleaser
Life is not a popularity contest (even though everything around you tends to suggest otherwise most days of the week). And nothing promises to kill your inner zen faster than people pleasing and comparisons. Some people will like you and your work and some won't. Some might even hate it with a passion. YOU have to find a way to get over it. And fast. But don't let it stop you from creating, being real and believing in yourself. You'll respect yourself more and attract the right audience in time.
5. Make your priorities a priority
The next time you find yourself saying I don’t have time for _______ , try this reframe instead: I don't have time for exercise/diet/check-ups because my health is not a priority. Or this: I don't have time for date night/sex/conversation because my relationship is not a priority. And this: I don't have time for my goals/interests/dreams because what I want is not a priority. Be clear on what you are giving up when you say you don't have time. Practice eliminating low-value activities so you can make room for the things that matter. One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure its worth watching.
6. Limit your media consumption
Sometimes bad things happen to good people. And sometimes ordinary people get caught up in unfortunate and extraordinary circumstances. Life is unfair that way. Pay attention to what's happening in the world but don't let your fears, doubt and hate stop you from helping others. From living well and doing your bit to bring about positive change.
7. Let it go
Things don't always go to plan. People don't always do as you expect. Acknowledge your disappointments and hurts and commit to letting them go if they no longer serve you. Look at areas of resistance, where are you holding back and why? Look for the root cause and practice reframing the situation. This will help you develop a growth mindset and new perspectives.
8. Slow down
Chances are you make poorer choices when you are feeling moody, irritated, and tired. I know I do which is why I make an effort to take lots of small breaks throughout the day. If I'm working from home, I might stop to make an iced coffee, or go for a walk around the block with the dog, or even take a nap. Find ways to power down so you can come back with renewed energy and focus.
9. Be in a state of observation
Life is happening all around you. Stop looking at your phone and pay attention to the people who are willing participants in your life. Take a broader interest in your work colleagues. Explore what makes people tick. Keep your receptors open. Open your eyes. Listen more, talk less.
10. Connect with nature
Studies from the University of Exeter Medical School in Britain found that moving closer to green spaces improves mental health immediately and is sustained over longer periods of time. The good news is that you don't have to go far to disconnect to reconnect with the healing properties of nature. Look out for what exists near you - parks, lakes, rivers, beaches and botanical gardens. Go for a walk, swim, hike, or surf. Pack a picnic, take your shoes off and feel the grass beneath your feet. Lay in the the warmth of sun's rays for a while. Plan for an outdoor adventure once a year if you can. Find ways to introduce more greenery into your living space with low maintenance plants.
11. Start and end each day with a spirit of appreciation
Every morning, Benjamin Franklin asked himself: “What good will I do today?” Then at night before going to bed he asked himself: “What good did I do today?" Talk about a powerful reflective ritual. Give it a go. Or try these alternatives “What will I create today?" and “What did I create today?”, or "What is my one true intention for today?". You might also enjoy this simple prayer to help you face each day with hope. And if you want to test how well you lived, ask yourself these 5 tiny but transformative questions each evening before bed.
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